In my previous article, I talk about narcissists taking one of two roads when the mask drops. They either put you on the shelf or they seek revenge. You’ll see common phrases used like, “did you really think you could hurt me and not get repercussions from it”. They will gaslight you and rewrite history. “You hurt me for months before I retaliated”, when really you never did a dang thing except bend over backwards to please them.
The narcissist will then initiate the smear campaign. What is a smear campaign? It’s a tool the narcissist uses to villainize their victim. There are three key components to the smear campaign: Projection, The Great Savior, Playing victim. The narcissist cycles through these to muddy the waters and gain accomplices. Many of the accomplices will be the victim’s ex-friends, which is how the narcissist gains inside info about which smears to use the most effectively.
Any photos or videos you sent them will be taken out of context and used against you as they gaslight anyone viewing them by revising the context to fit their own warped version of history. Private DM’s will be published and used to smear you. They will launch an all-out assault drawing in the flying monkeys (accomplices) to help them spread the hate and false version of the story they wish to tell. They will garner sympathy and play victim, telling anyone who will listen how horribly they were treated while doing nothing but being an angel of virtue when in fact the exact opposite is true.
Notice how democrats constantly project everything they are doing onto republicans. Many call this Saul Alinsky’s Rules for radicals but that’s because Alinsky was a full-blown narcissist. You can see how damaging and effective narcissist tactics can be, especially when you have a swarm of flying monkeys to spread their propaganda aka Twitter bots and the MSM.
Flying monkeys are willing participants in the narcissists game because they wish to gain favor with the narcissist and be bumped up in the chain of command. Some become flying monkeys because they genuinely love the narcissist or some become flying monkeys because they like being part of a group, or some become flying monkeys because they love drama, and hanging out with a narc gets you that in abundance.
Remember when the democrats and media took Trump’s out-of-context speech and labeled him a racist? The fine people hoax, the perfect phone call hoax, and now the newest one, the J6th hoax.
Once you realize that the communist Rules for Radicals and narcissism are exactly the same thing, you can view the world and everything that’s happening through a new clearer lens.
The mask is dropping for the democrats, so they have now gone into full revenge mode. They are throwing frivolous lawsuit after lawsuit against Trump and anyone in Trump’s circle. They are smearing republicans and accusing us of doing everything that they have done. They call us racists. They were the KKK yet they rewrote history to call us the racists. They called for defunding the police yet now they say republicans called for defunding the police. They suck at the teat of big pharma yet now they say they are holding big pharma accountable. The list goes on and on.
Your natural instinct is to defend yourself against the narc attack and sadly this only fuels them but sometimes you must counter their narrative. There is no limit to the steps a narc will take to ruin you. They have no empathy, compassion, or conscience, making a narc a most dangerous predator.
If you are a private citizen, the best way to deal with the narc is to go gray rock or ghost them. Stop communicating with them or the flying monkeys. Step away from the MSM. Block the narcs. If you have to deal with the narc go gray rock. Gray rock is only giving the narc yes or no answers. If they ask you if you’ve eaten say yes or no that’s it. Don’t elaborate, don’t tell them what you ate or where, and give them as little info as possible.
If you’re a public figure it’s a whole different story. Watch how Trump deals with them, he counters every smear with receipts, for example, the perfect phone call, he released the transcript. He videotapes interviews so he can show the public the true story of the 60 Minutes interview, The Piers Morgan interview. Trump has been dealing with narcs his whole life so he prepares defensive measures from the get-go.
How do you avoid narcs in your private life? Look for constant drama and victimhood.
We, as compassionate human beings, instinctively want to help people so we make easy marks for the narc and if it’s just one incident it’s probably not a narc but if it’s daily constant drama and woe is me, that’s most likely a narc, you can’t ever help them so cut them off and never look back.
10 signs you are dealing with a narcissist.
1. Conducts smear campaigns
2. Flatters and fawns to win favor
3. Criticizes and judges from the sidelines
4. Is condescending and superior
5. Identifies as a victim
6. Denies and dismisses others’ feelings
7. Gaslights
8. Denies own anger
9. Fakes or exaggerates illness/injury for attention
10. Uses guilt and shame to punish and control.
If you are a private citizen in a one-on-one relationship with a narc, run.
If you are a public figure dealing with an army of narcs, turn into the storm and keep those receipts, use them to counter the lies of the narcissists, which is exactly what our beloved Trump and his army of frogs are doing. The only way to truly defeat narcissists with power and fury is to expose them and show the world the face behind the mask.
Proverbs 22:10 Drive out the scoffer, and contention will go out, even strife and dishonor will cease
You nailed this Quinn, great article! My ex husband of almost 30 years is a total Narc. Unfortunately, I didn't realize it until it was too late. If you love a Narc, it is hard to break free. ❤️
Thank you Quinn for greater insight to identifying a narc. We all know some and I stay away or ignore them. It’s easy to get caught up in their self-centeredness. ♥️